B'nei Mitzvah

When your child is entering 6th grade, call to make an appointment to meet with the Cantor and Administrator. Bring 3 potential dates you have in consideration for the bar/t mitzvah date to the meeting.  The Cantor will advise you on the merits of the dates, and you'll sign a contract and fulfill financial obligations.  Ten months prior to the date Morah Rivkah will begin tutoring your child.  The cantor will hold approximately 4 ninety-minute sessions with your child to study Torah and discuss life together, which will produce a draft of the D'var Torah.

This B'nei Mitzvah handbook is under review and will be re-posted when the update is complete. Please contact the office with any questions in the interime.

For more information about the Financial Obligations, Food Policies, and Collations, please click here.

Just a few days before your family's B'nei Mitzvah you will meet with Cantor Bromberg. This serves as a chance to take pictures, since you cannot take them during Shabbat.  You will have a 'dress rehearsal' in the Sanctuary, so everyone knows what to expect, and the Cantor will go through the Honors with you.  If you have not already done so, please print out this Honors List sheet and give some thought to which family members and friends you'd like to honor.  When you meet with the Cantor, you can discuss it with him so everyone is literally! on the same page.

You may wish to make a program to guide your guests, Jewish and non-Jewish, through the service. You can also take this opportunity to thank those who have helped the B'nei Mitzvah student reach this day. You can omit this program, or make it as elaborate or simple as you like. This Sample B'nei Mitzvah Program serves as a guide to the material you may want to include.

And finally, to make clear the responsibilities the entire family and not just the B'nei Mitzvah student must uphold, here is the Contract you must sign for the Cantor.  

The ideal Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah has many components.  Mark Baker, the architect and synagogue member who designed our dream synagogue with love is the ideal physical location for your son's Bar Mitzvah and your daughter's Bat Mitzvah.  Come visit us to see the congregational spirit that matches this magnificant synagogue architectural design on a beautiful Poway hilltop in San Diego North County.